I am a member of several Women Only Facebook groups and many women post anonymous queries on a lot of them. These anonymous queries are regarding cheating husbands, lazy jobless spouses, unhelpful life partners, toxic in laws and similar issues.
Women post on this forum to rant out, to seek advice to be able to handle the problems that are gnawing at their minds. However there is this insensitive, brutal class of women who reply on these posts with, “My husband will never do that Alhamdullilah” , “My in laws are great Masha Allah”. I think this is the worst kind of advice you can give anyone.
You don’t have to rub it in the other’s face that you have got something which they don’t have. Specially when it comes to a thing like family and in laws, you can have some control over choosing your spouse but almost none of us have any control over choosing in laws. Even good guys can come from really crappy and toxic families.
In addition, if you haven’t been through a situation, the decent thing to do is to say Alhamdulliah to yourself, be gratfeul to Allah for the blessings you have in your life, say a prayer for the woman in distress and just scroll down without typing any comments on the post.
The only right to reply to those posts is of women who have been through those situations and have handled them gracefully and with tact.
We all have problems in life, some big, some small, every one of us has a different test given by Allah. It is better to go through this journey spreading smiles and joys for the people around us and helping them in their tests rather than telling them that my test is easier than yours. You will loose points for hurting someone’s feelings in Allah’s books for these kinds of replies too. It’s not only Facebook but Allah is recording all your social media reactions as well. Try to be as decent on social media as you would be in real life (Or would you?)